With the rapid development of artificial intelligence technology, ChatGPT is gradually becoming a new tool for couples to resolve disputes. Faced with the high cost of psychological counseling, many couples choose to use this smart chatbot to mediate conflicts, seek relationship advice and reflect on themselves. This trend reflects people's active exploration of the application of technology in the emotional field.
Abella Barra, a 36-year-old influencer talent manager from Los Angeles, and Dom Vishach, a 29-year-old data scientist, are typical examples of this phenomenon. They have used ChatGPT to mediate disputes for up to six months and pay $20 a month. Abella humorously said: "ChatGPT saved our relationship until it began to lean towards Dom's side." Dom believed that AI assistants helped them look at problems from a new perspective, avoiding the stress of quarrels, and that this method was more affordable than expensive psychotherapy.
However, AI’s advice is not always entirely reliable. During a relationship crisis, ChatGPT actually advised them to try "open relationships" or give Dom a "pass to date other women". Although these unexpected suggestions made the couple laugh and cry, they also unexpectedly eased the tension and made them forget the initial dispute.
Grace Mijiu, 35, also used AI to solve problems in her relationship with her 40-year-old boyfriend Eric. She described their situation in detail to ChatGPT and provided a record of the conversation. In this way, AI helps them reflect on each other’s communication habits, especially about checking each other’s frequency. This objective analysis improved their relationship.
Social media influencer Katherine Goetz also shared her experience. After a recent argument with her boyfriend, she went home to communicate with ChatGPT and got a humorous response that "You were very hungry and hadn't eaten for an hour, you were just a little hungry and angry." This relaxed explanation helps them quickly get out of the quarrel haze.
While many couples think AI can help in communication and conflict resolution, mental health consultant Ashley Williams reminds people to be cautious about AI’s advice. She noted that AI lacks the expertise of professionals and poses hidden dangers of data privacy. She stressed: "There is not enough research to prove that ChatGPT's advice is reliable, how much personal information do you reveal to the AI, and where is this information stored?"
Still, AI’s 24/7 usability and unbiased nature are attracting more and more people. According to a February 2025 study by Hatch Data and Mental Health, many prefer ChatGPT’s relationship advice, considering it to be more active and direct than written guidance from human therapists.
Even after a breakup, AI can provide emotional support. Single woman Grace Clark seeks direct and specific feedback from ChatGPT after her breakup. She found that AI’s advice was more effective than human therapists, helping her to regain her pain.
Overall, ChatGPT is becoming a "neutral referee" for couples to resolve disputes, helping them find new solutions. Through AI, people can better reflect on their communication habits and relationship patterns and improve their self-awareness. However, mental health experts remind that caution is needed when using AI advice, while also paying attention to the importance of privacy protection.